Keeping the romance alive is easier than you think.
Nothing feels better than falling in love. In fact, new love can make you feel like you’re high on drugs – and for good reason. The brain produces the same chemicals when you’re in love as it does when you use cocaine or heroin. No wonder we chase after that feeling so desperately.
But just like any drug, after a while, that feeling of infatuation starts to wear off. Your shiny new relationship loses a little of its glow, and one or both of you may go from comfortable to apathetic. He starts to get restless, you start to get bored. The sex starts to get less frequent, and the fights more frequent. Maybe you even think about having an affair, or wonder if he’s having one.
Before things get that far, there’s one thing you need to know about men: they need to feel appreciated. If you’re not making him feel special, he’ll start to look for someone else who does. Of course, we all want to feel smart, useful, and desired, but men tend to crave that affirmation even more than women do. When they walk out on a relationship, it’s often because their partner made them feel bad about themselves.
That’s not to say that you should fall all over yourself to praise your partner and make him feel good about himself if he’s not actually deserving of it. Sometimes, you pick fights and make him feel like shit because he’s actually behaving in a shitty manner. If this is the case, get yourselves to counseling or just go ahead and end it. But if your partner really is the greatest, and you want to feel those butterflies again, try one of these ideas. This text is inspired from a relationship guide His Secret Obsession by James Bauer, this guide is about learning how to trigger a man’s Hero Instinct.
- Talk about him
- Put it in the mail
- Back off
- Ask him what he thinks
- Make eye contact
- Spice up your sexlife
- Become his deepest obsession
1. Talk about him
Telling him how much you appreciate him in private is one thing. But praising him in public – bragging about him to your friends, in front of him – take it to another level. Even if it embarrasses him a little, it’ll make him feel great about himself – and about you.
2. Put it in the mail
With texting and email, who still bothers to write letters by hand and send them at the actual post office? People who are really in love, that’s who. Getting a real live love letter from you is guaranteed to make his day.
3. Back off
Those stereotypical man-cave jokes stem from true facts: guys need their space. When you back off a little and give it to him without him even having to ask – and possibly be made to feel guilty about it – he’ll love you even more.
4. Ask him what he thinks
Men love to problem-solve. Often, we clash with them because we just want to vent about something, and not be offered a solution. So when you specifically go to him asking for advice, he’ll love it.
5. Make eye contact
It sounds like a small thing, but slowing down and really looking your partner in the eye, rather than rushing around or getting distracted by your phone, makes a difference. Remember how you used to get lost in each other’s eyes in the early days? Take the time to get lost again.
6. Spice up your sex life
If your sex life has become predictable or you’re having far less sex than ever before, there’s no better way to reignite the romance then by investing back into sexy time together. Sex is particularly important for any relationship – without it, all you have is a friendship. Heat things back up with a couples sex toy. We LOVE this super cute beginner’s bondage kit from LoveHoney for putting the spice back into sex.
7. Become his deepest obsession
It’s no secret that most men only want one thing, right? Well it turns out that’s not only wrong, but may actually be the root of many failed relationships. In fact, the one thing men are universally obsessed with…Is actually a feeling he’s been chasing his whole life. It’s an elusive combination of emotion and biological drive that’s rarely satisfied in life or love. And when you know how to satisfy this life long obsession… He will make it his life long mission to cherish and please you… And he will pursue your love to the ends of the earth. So make sure to become your man´s deepest obsession right now!
Here’s a video you won’t want to miss that shows you how to become your man’s deepest obsession!
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